We don't know, the OP never gave the groom's opinion.Yes but is the couple ok with a bigger wedding?
We don't know, the OP never gave the groom's opinion.Yes but is the couple ok with a bigger wedding?
Just wanted to say, that the fiance has tried to limit his parents a little, but he totally wants the big wedding...and yes, I was using some hyperbole. Lol.
Then your DD needs to have a talk with the fiance. You (and future MiL) need to stay out of it.Just wanted to say, that the fiance has tried to limit his parents a little, but he totally wants the big wedding...and yes, I was using some hyperbole. Lol.
This is a first for me. Have never known a groom who cared about the size of the wedding.
This is a first for me. Have never known a groom who cared about the size of the wedding.
Assume much? I'm sure grooms wanting a big wedding are in the minority. So? Maybe this guy's in the minority.Like I openly admitted, It might be a sexist prejudice... But, I think that the number of young men who truly, for themselves... not to appease their mother/family, want such a big event, would def. be the minority.
If that original number of guest was not enough, then I can say that I am seeing no efforts here on the grooms family to make reasonable compromise.
I don't think this bodes well for the bride and her family in a marriage/relationship.
OP stated the DD wanted a small wedding. There was a so-called compromise agreed upon. (is 150 guest even a compromise????) And, now that is being disrespected.
Houston, we have a problem.....
OP: Having said that, you need to walk a fine line and try to stay out of it. This is up to the couple to work thru. Hasn't it been said that often the wedding is the first real-word test of how a couple will fare as they work thu situations in their lives.
Like I openly admitted, It might be a sexist prejudice... But, I think that the number of young men who truly, for themselves... not to appease their mother/family, want such a big event, would def. be the minority.
If that original number of guest was not enough, then I can say that I am seeing no efforts here on the grooms family to make reasonable compromise.
I don't think this bodes well for the bride and her family in a marriage/relationship.
I don't think so, at all.
OP stated the DD wanted a small wedding. There was a so-called compromise agreed upon. (is 150 guest even a compromise????) And, now that is being disrespected.
Houston, we have a problem.....
OP: Having said that, you need to walk a fine line and try to stay out of it. This is up to the couple to work thru. Hasn't it been said that often the wedding is the first real-word test of how a couple will fare as they work thu situations in their lives.
This is a first for me. Have never known a groom who cared about the size of the wedding.
This is a first for me. Have never known a groom who cared about the size of the wedding.
Really? I was married 25 years ago and my husband was more invested int eh size of our wedding than I was.
OP stated the DD wanted a small wedding. There was a so-called compromise agreed upon. (is 150 guest even a compromise????)
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150 was a compromise. MOG got 80, groom got 30, bride got 20 and I got 20. MOG wanted 130 by herself and groom's original list was closer to 50. Now the numbers seem to bee creeping back up to their original lists. It's not a question of money since everyone will pay for their own guests and the venue will fit, but this was just not DD's vision, and she's not really unhappy, just overwhelmed, I guess.
Honestly, the MOG getting over 50% of the invites is unheard of in my world. I'm all for parents getting some invites, but for the MOG to have more than the Bride, Groom, and Bride's family combined is insane. I'd be past overwhelmed and flat out unhappy.
And to be quite honest, I'd expect my Groom to say something to his mother about it. If the groom's list creeps up to 50 that's one thing, but for the MOG's to creep up when she's already invited more than half the guests -- No. Just no. I don't care that she's paying for them, that completely changes the tone and feel of the wedding to have her dominate the guest list so heavily.