But...DCL excursions can still miss the ship. If the port says get out. They get out. As a parent, I just could not forgive myself if I missed the ship and my kid was on it without me, so I won't ever do it.
Dear parents.....if you wanted alone time, me time, couple time, free time, etc; you should have thought about that BEFORE having children.
For the simple reason that I like my freedom, independence and alone time, I am neither married nor have kids. Even if I wanted kids my health would not allow it. I grew up in a very loving family spending time and vacations with parents, aunts and uncles, cousins, grandparents, family friends and their kids. Not once were any of us left in the care of strangers so mommy and daddy could have alone time or me time.
Just because I don't personally have kids or a spouse doesn't mean I have no knowledge of them. But you believe what you want.
Yet more proof of the idea that kids are accessories to the parents' life.
We did a morning excursion as a family, then went back to the ship for lunch. After lunch, my two boys, 14 and 12, went off to the Vibe and Edge respectively. They were done with Tortola. DH and I decided to pop out and take a look at the shops, which are practically right outside the door (albeit a customs check in between). We shopped (too much, but that's another thread) and hung out for an hour or so, then came back on the ship. Later that night, we were talking with the youth club manager CM about some bullying on the stairs to the Edge that my son had encountered (he had on a Lab band and they were calling him a baby and saying he was too young for Edge). Anyway, the CM said they tried to call us, but found out we were off the ship. The way she said it made it sound like we were horrible parents for leaving our 12 year old for an hour. We glossed by the insinuation to continue the point and resolve the bullying (he took off the Lab band), but it's nagged at me since.
Did I do something wrong? I was technically in another country from my children (well, pre-teen and teen), even though I was just steps away. As my son had been having a great time at the Edge and continued to do so, even after that event, I'm hoping it was okay. I don't want to be irresponsible, but I don't want to be a helicopter parent that has to be on call for an event that may never happen. They aren't little anymore.
Bullying happens on the ship just like it does at school. Adults even do it in the workplace. Even happens on the disboards. Kids have to learn the skills to deal with it. I don't even know why the cm called you. They should have put an end to it or called the parents of the kid who was doing the bullying. You can't be there every time someone says something mean to your kid. They'll never develop the thick skin needed to cope in this world. You did nothing wrong.We did a morning excursion as a family, then went back to the ship for lunch. After lunch, my two boys, 14 and 12, went off to the Vibe and Edge respectively. They were done with Tortola. DH and I decided to pop out and take a look at the shops, which are practically right outside the door (albeit a customs check in between). We shopped (too much, but that's another thread) and hung out for an hour or so, then came back on the ship. Later that night, we were talking with the youth club manager CM about some bullying on the stairs to the Edge that my son had encountered (he had on a Lab band and they were calling him a baby and saying he was too young for Edge). Anyway, the CM said they tried to call us, but found out we were off the ship. The way she said it made it sound like we were horrible parents for leaving our 12 year old for an hour. We glossed by the insinuation to continue the point and resolve the bullying (he took off the Lab band), but it's nagged at me since.
Did I do something wrong? I was technically in another country from my children (well, pre-teen and teen), even though I was just steps away. As my son had been having a great time at the Edge and continued to do so, even after that event, I'm hoping it was okay. I don't want to be irresponsible, but I don't want to be a helicopter parent that has to be on call for an event that may never happen. They aren't little anymore.
That was my thought, too. But it was our first cruise, so I didn't know if there was some rule I'd missed.Bullying happens on the ship just like it does at school. Adults even do it in the workplace. Even happens on the disboards. Kids have to learn the skills to deal with it. I don't even know why the cm called you. They should have put an end to it or called the parents of the kid who was doing the bullying. You can't be there every time someone says something mean to your kid. They'll never develop the thick skin needed to cope in this world. You did nothing wrong.
I would be comfortable if I was on a DCL excursion. I guess comfort level would also depend on the age of the kids.
My kids 12 and 15 would function just fine on a ship without me. They have food, a place to sleep, video games. They would probably get a lot of attention from the crew and officers. DCL would make sure I got to the next port. They would make sure my kids were ok, but I doubt it would even faze them. They are pretty independent. It definitely would be a funny vacation story to tell for years to come.
Hahaha. I know that's a joke. How do you think all the "souvenirs" are made in the first place. It's called mom and dad verandah club while the kids are in kids club.Dear parents.....if you wanted alone time, me time, couple time, free time, etc; you should have thought about that BEFORE having children.
I can see where it would be scary leaving a 6 year old. 90% of the time the kids go with us. I would never let them stay on the ship in Europe. I like to torture them and make them learn something. They usually enjoy it. They loved Iceland, England, Scotland, Norway, and Hawaii. The Med not so much. My son's excited about our Alaska excursions. If it's a Caribbean port that we've been to before they will usually opt to stay on the ship.I agree with this. Our DD was 4 on our DCL cruise. She is 6 now. Even if she was made Princess of the Cruise and the cast doted on her every second of the day and night until we were reunited, I still think that she would be worried about me being gone which is why I could not do it. BUT, at 15, I would leave my kid home alone for a week while I was on a work trip, so long as people were checking in on her, and I would totally leave her on the ship while we were on an excursion if she did not want to be there. Why waste money on an excursion for her and I know by that age, she would probably love it if we go
Did I do something wrong? I was technically in another country from my children (well, pre-teen and teen), even though I was just steps away. As my son had been having a great time at the Edge and continued to do so, even after that event, I'm hoping it was okay. I don't want to be irresponsible, but I don't want to be a helicopter parent that has to be on call for an event that may never happen. They aren't little anymore.
If your not responsible enough to make it back it the ship on time then you probably should not do it.
Good point... just on the opposite side of customs, I guess.When the ship's in Tortola's waters, the ship is in Tortola. You were all in the same country. And you didn't do anything wrong.
I think if I was in an accident I'd be happy my kids were safe on the ship, and not hurt. There's lot's of ways to look at this.Right...because everyone that has had or been in an accident is irresponsible. Smh...
I think if I was in an accident I'd be happy my kids were safe on the ship, and not hurt. There's lot's of ways to look at this.