bbel
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- Joined
- Apr 23, 2014
We did a morning excursion as a family, then went back to the ship for lunch. After lunch, my two boys, 14 and 12, went off to the Vibe and Edge respectively. They were done with Tortola. DH and I decided to pop out and take a look at the shops, which are practically right outside the door (albeit a customs check in between). We shopped (too much, but that's another thread) and hung out for an hour or so, then came back on the ship. Later that night, we were talking with the youth club manager CM about some bullying on the stairs to the Edge that my son had encountered (he had on a Lab band and they were calling him a baby and saying he was too young for Edge). Anyway, the CM said they tried to call us, but found out we were off the ship. The way she said it made it sound like we were horrible parents for leaving our 12 year old for an hour. We glossed by the insinuation to continue the point and resolve the bullying (he took off the Lab band), but it's nagged at me since.
Did I do something wrong? I was technically in another country from my children (well, pre-teen and teen), even though I was just steps away. As my son had been having a great time at the Edge and continued to do so, even after that event, I'm hoping it was okay. I don't want to be irresponsible, but I don't want to be a helicopter parent that has to be on call for an event that may never happen. They aren't little anymore.
I'm sorry you think they were making you feel bad. I can safely say that anyone I worked with on board wouldn't give it a second thought you were off the ship. I'd say 75% of the kids in care on a port day are there while their parents are off the ship. We wouldn't have a job if they didn't.
They purely just wanted you to know that they were aware there was an issue. That they tried to deal with it right away but you weren't there and they just wanted you to know that. And bullying is one thing they take seriously in any form with anyone on board.
Their first response is to call for anything. Your kids band-aid fell off (that you gave them) and they want a new one, they call to tell you their putting a new one on. You're kids cold and wants a jacket we call. If you're off the ship, we let you know we called when you get back on because some parents see they had a missed call and freak out.
We have kids on med cruises who are checked in from 7-7 while the parents do excursions (some kids every port day). I never thought they were bad parents. I thought they were actually decent. Doing what works best for their family. Not dragging their kids around and having them hating life.