I had a friend who was getting married. Both she and her husband to be had complete households and had been married before. She threw herself a bridal shower and the theme was "Gas and Geoceey Gift Cards". Lovely. That's not a theme. Hawaiian night is a theme. I skipped the bridal shower because it was a money grab. Then, in the wedding invitation, there was a little card stating that they had everything they needed in life, so they were asking for cash or gas and grocery gift cards. Tacky.