Newlyweds Chastise Wedding Guest Because Gift Wasn't Sufficient

[superme80]

Man. Here I was thrilled with the $20 gift card I got to Wal-Mart. I was blown away at how generous people were. And by that I meant they actually came to my wedding! These people need a reality check!

 

[Jaya]

What the couples don't grasp is that a reception is supposed to be a "we're happy to get married, so please some and celebrate with us" occasion, not a gift-grab. In the old days, the groom was a young man leaving his family's house and the bride was a teenage girl leaving her family's house and they didn't have much to get started with, except for the things the girl made for her "hope chest". So, a party was held after the weddin' and friends and family helped them get a household together by giving them quilts that they had made, pots and pans, chairs, tables, utensils, etc., because THEY NEEDED THE STUFF. Today's bride and groom have probably been living together for some time or at least have had their own apartments or homes and they don't really NEED anything. If a couple is depending on their guests' gifts to finance their wedding reception, then they are having the wrong reception.

OK, I'm off the soapbox.

 

[verleniahall]

Wow. So a wedding is held to make money for the couple getting married? News to me. I held my wedding to celebrate our marriage. I couldn't have given two flips if no one got us a gift.

EXACTLY!!!!

We recieved exactly $25.00 - $10 Subway GC, $10 to Walmar, $5 in cash - it was a quick wedding before the DH left for bootcamp

 

[anneboleyn]

Too bad the check already cleared or I'd cancel that in a moment. In lieu of the checking clearing, I'd simply respond, "most people here on earth simply say 'thank you' when receiving a gift".

And then call her the name that all woman dispise the most!

Your statement about saying thank you is correct, but the one about calling her *that* word is out of line.

 

[lorimay]

I often think what my grandparents would say if they came back to our world today and saw what we have become as a society.
This one would make them flip a bit.

 

[RedAngie]

Is this real or internet folklore? I feel like we had this exact discussion over the last several months.

ETA-I found a similar article from 2013. Not the same details but a similar story.

I guess more and more people are just rude.

Yeah, I've read a few similar stories over the past few years, including the pasta gift basket war of words in the link someone provided. But if those stories are posted on the internet, they must be true.

I really do believe there are Bridezillas and their mates tacky enough to berate a guest for what they perceive is an inadequate gift.

 

[DisneyMommyMichelle]

Yup, I would have 100% let it slip as to who gave me such a rude 'awakening'

 

[MaryLovesPoohBear]

I would think a $150 wedding gift from a former co-worker would be generous for most people --- What was the couple expecting?

Maybe this guest was only invited because she had recently received an inheritance and the bride was hoping for a huge amount.

That is exactly what it sounds like. The bride and groom figured they would get a really nice gift from the guest.

 

[MagicaDeSpell]

Never expect big gifts from the moderately wealthy, in most cases they got that way by being frugal and hard working, or they were raised by people who were frugal and hard working who taught them that ethic. They are quite generous with grandkids, and reasonably generous with everyone else, which is just what $150 wedding gift sounds like to me.

 

[scrapquitler]

A greedy newlywed couple e-mailed a guest complaining that her monetary gift was lower than expected.

https://www.yahoo.com/style/greedy-newlyweds-email-guest-to-say-wedding-gift-123447810.html

“We were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.”

Hmmmm, I wonder what I would send as an "adjustment" if I received that e-mail.

The only adjustment I'd be making would be to put a stop payment on the check.

 

[georgina]

I find it weird that things like this end up on social media for everyone to be outraged. I guess I'm just not the kind of person who would post this somewhere like Facebook if it happened to me. To many other things to be outraged about.

 

[Julie's Haircut]

Since the cheque was already cashed, I'd make an adjustment the same as I would for those envelopes someone's co-worker passed around for her son's summer trip: a snotty Kleenex, used toilet paper, or the like.

Too bad the guest didn't name the greedy couple in her post, and accidentally provide their e-mail or phone number.

 

[lifesavacation]

I kinda wonder what amount is considered acceptable from a former co-worker. $145 sounds reasonable to me, especially since it didn't say they were friends.

 

[usnuzuloose]

The only adjustment I'd be making would be to put a stop payment on the check.

I would be inclined to do the same thing, and let them know I did not have to give them anything.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

A greedy newlywed couple e-mailed a guest complaining that her monetary gift was lower than expected.

https://www.yahoo.com/style/greedy-newlyweds-email-guest-to-say-wedding-gift-123447810.html

“We were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.”

Hmmmm, I wonder what I would send as an "adjustment" if I received that e-mail.

The polite wording of their rudeness cracks me up.

 

[Vijoge]

A greedy newlywed couple e-mailed a guest complaining that her monetary gift was lower than expected.

https://www.yahoo.com/style/greedy-newlyweds-email-guest-to-say-wedding-gift-123447810.html

“We were surprised that your contribution didn’t seem to match the warmth of your good wishes on our big day. In view of your own position, if you wanted to send any adjustment it would be thankfully received.”

Hmmmm, I wonder what I would send as an "adjustment" if I received that e-mail.

Is it too late to stop payment on the check that was already given? That would be the only adjustment I'd be making.

 

[Vijoge]

I work with a woman who included links to her gift registrie(s) with the wedding invitation. One was relatively inexpensive items (towels, toaster, placemats) and one had the big ticket items (Cuisinart food processor, set of Samsonite luggage, Egyptian cotton sheets) She invited nearly everyone in the company (probably about 100 people) but which gift list you received depended entirely on your salary level. Her reasoning was that people who made more money should be expected to give her a more expensive gift. Most people didn't realize until after the wedding that there were two registries.

 

[DisneyHardin]

That is crazy!!! There were a couple people that didn't give us anything for a wedding gift and I was a little bit surprised by it, but I surely didn't call them out on it.

 

[Julie's Haircut]

Is it too late to stop payment on the check that was already given? That would be the only adjustment I'd be making.

I believe the link said the check had already been cashed. The e-mail was sent several weeks after the wedding.

 

[Rhie]

I'm not seeing any legitimate sources that say its true...but I'm not seeing any legitimate sources that say its not true either. I don't know about this particular story, but I would bet that at some point someone did something this ungrateful. I hope they learn to think better of it, if its true.