ksjayhawks
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Feb 14, 2004
I would guess that the costs for insurance, property taxes, and maintenance for 19 years is more than the cost of the addition to the house.
What I would do is pay for the deposit on the senior apartment, pay the moving costs for the move to the apartment, and set up a small savings account for her--say $5000. Help her set up a budget so she knows where her money will go and how much "extra " money she will have each month.
You have had her with you for 19 years, start talking with her about the future, take her to visit the senior home. Is there a reason that your younger siblings can't step up and take care of her? It seems only fair that they should pitch in and do their part. You have taken care of her for 19 years, seems like it is their turn to take care of mom.
Also, this is a good example of why people should not make life-changing decisions in a hurry after the death of a family member. It needs to be well thought out, talked about, involve a lawyer if needed.
My mom lived with us for 7 years full time and during the winter months for 9 years before that. We were reaching a point where it was getting harder for her to be on her own but she fell and couldn't be on her own in our home anymore before we had started to talk with her about different living arrangements. (she was older, too, almost 89 when she went to the nursing home.)
What I would do is pay for the deposit on the senior apartment, pay the moving costs for the move to the apartment, and set up a small savings account for her--say $5000. Help her set up a budget so she knows where her money will go and how much "extra " money she will have each month.
You have had her with you for 19 years, start talking with her about the future, take her to visit the senior home. Is there a reason that your younger siblings can't step up and take care of her? It seems only fair that they should pitch in and do their part. You have taken care of her for 19 years, seems like it is their turn to take care of mom.
Also, this is a good example of why people should not make life-changing decisions in a hurry after the death of a family member. It needs to be well thought out, talked about, involve a lawyer if needed.
My mom lived with us for 7 years full time and during the winter months for 9 years before that. We were reaching a point where it was getting harder for her to be on her own but she fell and couldn't be on her own in our home anymore before we had started to talk with her about different living arrangements. (she was older, too, almost 89 when she went to the nursing home.)