Kitty 34
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- Feb 16, 2000
I am going to get flamed for saying this, but I think we are being punked.
And if we are......I'm good with it. During Quarantine Times even my DISing ethics are different!
I am going to get flamed for saying this, but I think we are being punked.
You seem like you want a partner for companionship and have that special someone to share life with and be in each other's corner. To help give your life goals and meaning. Though in essence, those thoughts could straddle thinking a partner could rescue us.
Only we can save ourselves from our hang-ups. A partner can support us working on things but they can't and never will save us. Most of that has to come out of us individually. That's a huge step towards finding a functional relationship. A relationship doesn't fill in the gaps, it multiples the positives or negatives. Working toward a better fulfilled version of self increases the happiness, quality and likelihood of finding a partner and maintaining a healthy relationship. Finding a partner is the first hurdle but the quality is what makes it or breaks it. In the end it always comes back to us and how prepared we are to contribute and share a life together.
Some of those friends marrying will divorce or be miserable because of these hurdles. So what if you arrive later if your arrival is solid. That's what matters more to your happiness.
If you don't speak up, your friend won't know how you feel. You could always talk to him about it without begging to be in the wedding. Something like, "I am so happy for you and Susan, is there anything I can do to make the day go easier? I would love to help out and be a part of your day." Or something like that.
Weddings can bring up sorrow for many people who want to be married or in a relationship and for people unhappy in their own marriage etc. Same with baby showers for people who can't have kids or never had kids and wanted them.
Yes, I want someone to share my life with. I'm tired of having no to come home to. For me a relationship would help me in many ways, it would help me feel fulfilled.
Things don't always go as planned. I didn't expect to still be single at 33, but here I am and my life is fine. There are benefits to being single, too. Better to be single than in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship, in my opinion.
I’d advise against talking to him about it. He made his decision. And yes it’s tough to be left out i know but don’t put him on the spot.
You should never have a child to make you feel better, you kind of sound like a teen mom with that attitude, it’s wrong. Adopt a dog.For me, there are no benefits to being single. It makes my life than it has to be. I always feel somewhat left out when I go to events with married friends and their spouses. I don't enjoy being home alone at night and always having to tell people that I'm single and not married.
If I could easily adopt as a single parent, I would do it in a heartbeat so I wouldn't be so alone in my life.
You should never have a child to make you feel better, you kind of sound like a teen mom with that attitude, it’s wrong. Adopt a dog.
For me, there are no benefits to being single. It makes my life than it has to be. I always feel somewhat left out when I go to events with married friends and their spouses. I don't enjoy being home alone at night and always having to tell people that I'm single and not married.
If I could easily adopt as a single parent, I would do it in a heartbeat so I wouldn't be so alone in my life.
For me, there are no benefits to being single. It makes my life than it has to be. I always feel somewhat left out when I go to events with married friends and their spouses. I don't enjoy being home alone at night and always having to tell people that I'm single and not married.
If I could easily adopt as a single parent, I would do it in a heartbeat so I wouldn't be so alone in my life.
Off the top of my head: I can do all the things I want to do (vacations, events, movies, food, purchases, stay in and do nothing, etc.) without having to take someone else's opinion or needs into account. I can spend all holidays with my family and not have to worry about splitting time with a significant other's family.
This is a really bad reason to have a child.
Start with a pet first. Join a book club. Develop a new hobby that requires social interaction with other people. If you're the church-going sort of person, just about any larger church organization has an adult singles group that does fun stuff together regularly.
All of the weddings I have gone to had the groomsmen handle the ushering duties. Perhaps it's a regional thing.I think you are confusing groomsmen with ushers. Most of the weddings I've been to have two ushers(who aren't groomsmen) who escort people to their seats.
I learned very recently its not fair to the kid to put more responsibility on them then what is age appropriate
Like for a newborn for example it will be a very one sided relationship till they learn to love
I’m 110% there with you wanting to find someone to share your life with. I want that for myself too. But what you don’t seem to realize is that you have to find ways to feel fulfilled on your own first.Yes, I want someone to share my life with. I'm tired of having no to come home to. For me a relationship would help me in many ways, it would help me feel fulfilled.