jt'smom
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- May 20, 2008
Regardless of what I might think of an invitation, I would never question it.
Nailed it. An invitation is an invitation. Or in this case a Save The Date card. It's extended as a social request for the company of whomever the person sending it chooses, for whatever reason, and regardless of whether you like it or not, or agree with it, it's not a command that you must accept. And as such, it's not the person's place who is on the receiving end to question why or why not someone wasn't included. Especially in this case. It's not like it's a birthday party invitation some parent sends to the entire class, but leaves out one kid. Now that would be cruel, simply because it would seem very exclusionary and you're talking about little children. It's a wedding, for heaven's sake, and it's not the Bride or Groom's responsibility to explain their choices. Plus, it's also not like we are talking about a family with a 12 and 15 year old, where only the 12 year old is included. It's an 18 year old who has a relationship with the bride, and a 21 year old who does not, except as a long time neighbor. I don't get why that is considered tacky, or mean. As for the argument that it's not right because it's not inviting the entire household, well, in this day and age when lots of twenty-something adults still live at home, I just can't imagine feeling like adult children should always be included simply because they haven't gotten out on their own yet.