My DD just got engaged. She wanted a small wedding, but the fiance and his parents have a large, close knit extended family, so that idea was nixed early and DD set a limit of 150 people. My original guest list had 20 people on it. Those are the only ones I MUST invite. Now, with his family constantly saying "we must have the xxxxxx's", I find myself feeling rather annoyed at the whole thing. I also have people I might like to have, but every extra person is rather expensive and since everyone (his family, us, DD and fiance) is contributing monetarily, I think inviting your postman's cousin is just rude, even if you are offering to pay the difference. I don't want to upset DD (who vents to me), so I'm venting here.