Holly, I am so, so sorry, If there is anything we can do, please let us know. I am not that far away.
Boston is great for treatment. Calanniebu referred the best pulmonary dr for my mom up there, and you know from conversations we've had that SF c treatments have been going real well with the dr up there.
I know your mind must be going a 100 miles per minute. Stop for a second, take a deep breath, forgetabout mt washmore, forgetabout your irresponsible siblings, make sure you eat and rest. You need to take care of yourself so you can take care of your loved ones.
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