acm563
Passionate for Life~Are we there yet?~A dream is a
- Joined
- Jan 3, 2008
From a guys point of view, and as a former "player wannabe" (I was never very good at it...honesty and respect got in the way too often), I'd say you just about nailed it, with a couple of fixes.
1)
I'd say that most commonly, as stupid as it sounds, it's simply someone "new"...a new face, new experiences, new challenges. You even said it yourself...
2)
I'd agree that this can be true in some cases. But in most, as in #1, it's usually about the "thrill of the chase". Players don't even consider relationships. They're not even thinking about your feelings. There was a phrase we used during my time that for me, was a very real "craving". Many a night I went out with the feeling that I "needed a fix". Sick, I know, but true.
Other than that, I'd say you're exactly right.
..and unfortunately I learned it all the hard way...
and let me add yet another story...hahah...i have my ads still on a lot of the sites but honestly never do anything with it but maybe read the emails and return them with a thank you but I am not interested...but one guy did catch my eye and my ear and so we started conversing, talked online and on phone then agreed what the heck, why wait lets meet.... BLAH! We had absolutely nothing in common in reality, he didnt look like his picture, but I dont think it was a deliberate misrepresentation, he just looked better in pics than in person. The only thing he wanted to discuss was how he thought I looked...and on and on..and while I like compliments I dont want an obsessive amt of them that make me feel like a piece of meat. The point is tho, it wasnt there, it was a nice enough albeit boring evening and I went my way and he went his without getting what he obviously came for. If you are going to do the online thing you honestly have to keep a sense of humor about it as well... It is what it is.......... Just dont ever settle because all you meet are frogs....its just not worth it, whether you are male or female... I have been in relationships and 90% miserable and I have been and am single and 90% happy, I prefer being happy...