Just going to add my two cents, if I may. I read often, but rarely post lol
I totally think the online stuff can work out. Or not.
I met my husband in February '99 (in a chat room actually). He lived in Indiana and I live in Boston. We knew instantly, even without having met face to face, that there was a strong connection. We chatted until we did the actual "meeting" in April. We decided to meet half way (which was Philadelphia?). His flight was not supposed to get in until after mine. But he was going to try stand-by and see if he could get an earlier flight. I didn't know if he had or not, since I was already on the plane on my way there. When I got off the plane, I had no expectations of him being at the airport already. The airport was so crowded, and obviously so noisy. I got off the plane and was headed to baggage claim when I heard "Jina". Honestly (and this sounds corny) but I was so tuned into his voice, from having only been able to talk to him for months (and hours a day) on the phone that I heard his voice so clearly through all that noise. (Don't gag, I know it sounds corny, but it's true lol). I think you can really get to know someone on a deep level when all you have is the phone and email. All you do is TALK! lol
I knew instantly, when I saw him, that he was the man for me. It just reinforced what I had already been feeling for those months prior to actually meeting. (not saying this always happen, or that it's even the norm, but sometimes you just "get that feeling").
When he flew back home in April, he put a transfer in for his job to move to Boston. He flew out to be with me again in May, I flew to him in July, and by August, he had put all of his things in his car and driven to Boston to live with me. We got married shortly after and he was truly the love of my life.
So, after a long story lol, yes online "dating" or "long distance dating" , whatever, can work. But as far as long distance, I think one or the other person needs to make it clear up front whether or not they can move if things got serious and what it is they're looking for from a relationship.
On the other hand, since my husband passed away I've tried the online dating thing again. And have met a couple of real tools. I think online dating is different than it used to be, before it became the norm. A much bigger...umm..."variety" of people out there now I guess. Makes it so I gave up on it altogether.
Just be careful and have a "safe" call. But always keep your mind open, it CAN happen.
Man I can ramble.