belle032
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Apr 6, 2011
I'm 33 years old. I really don't have close friends. I live in a place that I strongly dislike. It's a rural area and extremely hard to meet people which probably explains my lack of social circle. I would give anything for a book club or something similar. My SIL, who is my closest friend here, is getting married in a month. Guess what? I'm not in her wedding. In any capacity.
I got sucked into this thread and OP, I did have sympathy for you in the beginning. I really did. And then I kept reading, and guess what? I don't have much sympathy left for you anymore. I don't deny that you have had hardships in your life. It sounds like you absolutely have and I applaud you for overcoming them. But guess what? Everyone has.
Time for some tough love.
Every single poster on this thread has offered up very polite, empathetic, sage advice. And you don't want to hear any of it. You WANT sympathy.
You say you want your friends to include you in weddings and sporting events and activities, but you don't want to tell them that? Do you expect them to read your mind? That's pretty unfair of you.
You say you don't want therapy because it makes you feel weak? What do you think you're doing right now? Pretty much using the Disboards as online therapy. What's the difference in talking to an actual person who's job is to literally HELP YOU WITH THESE PROBLEMS IN TOTAL CONFIDENCE? Stop whining on a message board!
I often think people who go to therapy are much stronger than ones that refuse. They have the inner strength and confidence to realize there is a problem and they are actively taking steps to get themselves to a better place. What's stronger than that?
It sounds like you have a lot of love to give, and that's wonderful. But you have a lot to work on yourself before you force a relationship with another human being. Get a dog.
I got sucked into this thread and OP, I did have sympathy for you in the beginning. I really did. And then I kept reading, and guess what? I don't have much sympathy left for you anymore. I don't deny that you have had hardships in your life. It sounds like you absolutely have and I applaud you for overcoming them. But guess what? Everyone has.
Time for some tough love.
Every single poster on this thread has offered up very polite, empathetic, sage advice. And you don't want to hear any of it. You WANT sympathy.
You say you want your friends to include you in weddings and sporting events and activities, but you don't want to tell them that? Do you expect them to read your mind? That's pretty unfair of you.
You say you don't want therapy because it makes you feel weak? What do you think you're doing right now? Pretty much using the Disboards as online therapy. What's the difference in talking to an actual person who's job is to literally HELP YOU WITH THESE PROBLEMS IN TOTAL CONFIDENCE? Stop whining on a message board!
I often think people who go to therapy are much stronger than ones that refuse. They have the inner strength and confidence to realize there is a problem and they are actively taking steps to get themselves to a better place. What's stronger than that?
It sounds like you have a lot of love to give, and that's wonderful. But you have a lot to work on yourself before you force a relationship with another human being. Get a dog.