Back in the 1980s when my friends and I were all getting married, the gal wore a floofy white dress, her parents were the 'host' of the wedding, inviting their friends and circle of peers, showers were thrown, the gifts put on display at the mother's home, thank you notes were written, china/crystal were chosen, etc etc. And if the girl's parents could afford it, they foot the bill. The groom's family hosted a rehersal dinner.
I do realize this was not the same for everyone and I am painting with a broad brush.
Nowadays, it seems only the couple does the planning themselves, the parents are told when to show up, no more showers, not a lot of thank you notes mailed out.
This has been the experience for me, my best friends and their 20 something kids.
Is it the same in all parts of the country?
I'm not complaining at all. AT ALL. So please don't assume I am.
I'm just pointing out how things have changed.
We're in the southern part of the US. My 20 something kid is getting married this fall and hasn't needed my help although I have offered to do anything at all they might need. I'm super excited for this event!
Thoughts? What's been your experience? Do you think all the old traditional wedding events have forever changed?