nycdisneygal
I went ahead and signed up for another kid!
- Joined
- Feb 13, 2010
What would you do?
I live in expensive NYC and am in my 40s. Want to move to a town in CT. My parents have a home there and live in NYC, so sometimes we go out there and stay with them. I pay for their lawn services already as I did not want my dad to be doing the lawn in the heat at his age! We also help with fixing things up and gardening (my husband mainly).
So, our financial situation is: I have large school loans, we bought an apt 13 years ago, and my sister now lives in it but since she cant afford the whole thing (about 3K per month) we still pay 1K per month and my parents pay 1 K per month. So thats a mortgage we have. Its only a 1 bedroom so thats why I moved out. Our current rent we are paying is about 4.2K per month and its a good deal for NYC (2 bedroom and 2 bathroom!!!).
Our DD12 is in private school (since kindergarten) as we thought that would be best. In NYC it is SUPER expensive. That is why we waited almost 10 years to have a 2nd child -- the cost!!!! And we cant afford to live here AND send 2 kids to school.
Thats also why we want to move to CT. Good schools (public!) for our 2 kids. And hopefully better quality of life.
So that I dont have to commute 4 hours per day, I applied for and found jobs near CT. They both pay more than my current job ( I wont start until next spring). In fact, DH can stay at home and we will be making more than we are now (for one of the jobs). My husband makes a lot less than I do so I would love for him to stay home and help manage the household.
So.. we thought about buying a house. Because of our expenses, we have not saved enough for 20% DOWN for most of the houses in the town, but I am trying to look into the less expensive smaller houses. And really, other than the private school and our disney trips, we generally live below our means. I cook dinner after work, no housekeeper, my sister helps with childcare, many of my clothes are 20 years old, aways buy on sale. So we have discussed just adding a room and bathroom to my parents house ( I think the money we have saved will pay for it). This way we have help at home, no huge mortgage, can pay off loans and other mortgage, and save for both DD's college and retirement (and Disney vacations!!!!!). I just feel that taking a mortgage now means I will not be done paying it until my early 70s! But then, living with my parents is not that easy. Also , my mom can be difficult/annoying. I know that selling our apartment may be hard so I cant rely on that to help come up with downpayment. If I buy a house in the same town, I will still have to be taking care of 2 houses. My dad is coming up with ideas on where to build the addition already (he has no idea of what is actually feasible and is just coming up with ideas - some of which will obviously not work) but my DH is saying he wants to just buy a house. Also, I am guessing my sister will want to just move in with us. She is over every day having dinner with us but does spend a lot of time with my kids as DH and I work full time and she only works 2 days per week. My DH never thinks about finances -- I take care of everything/ watch everything. I remind him that it is not just mortage but taxes, heating oil, home repairs etc. Not sure if I am over worried about how we will pay for things...
I live in expensive NYC and am in my 40s. Want to move to a town in CT. My parents have a home there and live in NYC, so sometimes we go out there and stay with them. I pay for their lawn services already as I did not want my dad to be doing the lawn in the heat at his age! We also help with fixing things up and gardening (my husband mainly).
So, our financial situation is: I have large school loans, we bought an apt 13 years ago, and my sister now lives in it but since she cant afford the whole thing (about 3K per month) we still pay 1K per month and my parents pay 1 K per month. So thats a mortgage we have. Its only a 1 bedroom so thats why I moved out. Our current rent we are paying is about 4.2K per month and its a good deal for NYC (2 bedroom and 2 bathroom!!!).
Our DD12 is in private school (since kindergarten) as we thought that would be best. In NYC it is SUPER expensive. That is why we waited almost 10 years to have a 2nd child -- the cost!!!! And we cant afford to live here AND send 2 kids to school.
Thats also why we want to move to CT. Good schools (public!) for our 2 kids. And hopefully better quality of life.
So that I dont have to commute 4 hours per day, I applied for and found jobs near CT. They both pay more than my current job ( I wont start until next spring). In fact, DH can stay at home and we will be making more than we are now (for one of the jobs). My husband makes a lot less than I do so I would love for him to stay home and help manage the household.
So.. we thought about buying a house. Because of our expenses, we have not saved enough for 20% DOWN for most of the houses in the town, but I am trying to look into the less expensive smaller houses. And really, other than the private school and our disney trips, we generally live below our means. I cook dinner after work, no housekeeper, my sister helps with childcare, many of my clothes are 20 years old, aways buy on sale. So we have discussed just adding a room and bathroom to my parents house ( I think the money we have saved will pay for it). This way we have help at home, no huge mortgage, can pay off loans and other mortgage, and save for both DD's college and retirement (and Disney vacations!!!!!). I just feel that taking a mortgage now means I will not be done paying it until my early 70s! But then, living with my parents is not that easy. Also , my mom can be difficult/annoying. I know that selling our apartment may be hard so I cant rely on that to help come up with downpayment. If I buy a house in the same town, I will still have to be taking care of 2 houses. My dad is coming up with ideas on where to build the addition already (he has no idea of what is actually feasible and is just coming up with ideas - some of which will obviously not work) but my DH is saying he wants to just buy a house. Also, I am guessing my sister will want to just move in with us. She is over every day having dinner with us but does spend a lot of time with my kids as DH and I work full time and she only works 2 days per week. My DH never thinks about finances -- I take care of everything/ watch everything. I remind him that it is not just mortage but taxes, heating oil, home repairs etc. Not sure if I am over worried about how we will pay for things...