Tough one..that's really your call. All I can say is..she's at that age. It's not an excuse..but it's to be expected. Probably..I wouldn't have pulled her home, because it didn't effect just her weekend..and maybe your Mom is pretty ticked right now? It didn't just ruin your daughters plans. Grandma's missed out on time with her grandaughter for not cleaning her room. Bet she remembers those days with say...you? She's 14...it's just not a priority for her. She thinks your lame for wanting things a certain way in what's supposed to be "her" space. I'm not saying that's right..I'm just telling you what she's probably thinking. Only because I have been told this by my daughter. Who has issues with keeping her room clean. I seriously think she has issues with clutter..and I am the COMPLETE opposite. I've had to take a breath and step back. My policy is..I want to see the floor.
It's their space..but once it starts infringing on "my space"...then "I"M GOIN IN"....and they NEVER want that.
Because I just throw out, throw out, throw out. Seems I even throw out what might be important to them. Ooops..sorry.
It usually takes a time or two for them to get the idea..but they get it. I've accepted the fact, that I am a neat freak..and she isn't. Probably...becasue I'm a neat freak. Kids do that to ya..just want to make you squirm.