GroovyWheeler
Earning My Ears
- Joined
- Dec 6, 2004
Not Disney-related, but I was hoping that someone could help me out on this. As some of you probably know, my fiance' (we're getting married July 17th of next year), Dan and I both have disabilities. He has Traumatic Brain Injury and I have Apert Syndrome, among orthopedic issues which I use a wheelchair for.
Anyway, I belong to a group known as "People First", and one of the topics we covered at our get-together today, was parents with disabilities raising kids. One of the members was telling us about how she knew this one woman with Cerebral Palsy, and how Child Protective Services didn't trust her enough to raise a child, and that she had to prove to them really hard that she could do it.
Dan and I want to have kids someday, as we are both good with them, and he has always wanted to be a dad, as I've always wanted to be a mom. But, after hearing about what happened with the woman, I'm worried that we might get the same kind of treatment as she did, especially since there are two of us with disabilities, and because Dan has Traumatic Brain Injury, but doesn't show much of the effects from it, especially when it comes to his personaility when he's around me (which is wonderful, goofy, and a whole lot of other good stuff).
I'm curious to know as to why these people have to judge people like us, when it comes to being parents. I have normal intelligence, and am aware of what goes on around me, and so does Dan. But when we have kids, I know that they're are going to be people out there, who will judge us, like they're saying, "You guys can't really do this kind of thing." Along with the ones who'll praise us, and admire us, for just being the parents that we are.
Samantha
Anyway, I belong to a group known as "People First", and one of the topics we covered at our get-together today, was parents with disabilities raising kids. One of the members was telling us about how she knew this one woman with Cerebral Palsy, and how Child Protective Services didn't trust her enough to raise a child, and that she had to prove to them really hard that she could do it.
Dan and I want to have kids someday, as we are both good with them, and he has always wanted to be a dad, as I've always wanted to be a mom. But, after hearing about what happened with the woman, I'm worried that we might get the same kind of treatment as she did, especially since there are two of us with disabilities, and because Dan has Traumatic Brain Injury, but doesn't show much of the effects from it, especially when it comes to his personaility when he's around me (which is wonderful, goofy, and a whole lot of other good stuff).
I'm curious to know as to why these people have to judge people like us, when it comes to being parents. I have normal intelligence, and am aware of what goes on around me, and so does Dan. But when we have kids, I know that they're are going to be people out there, who will judge us, like they're saying, "You guys can't really do this kind of thing." Along with the ones who'll praise us, and admire us, for just being the parents that we are.
Samantha