Part of my first post - "I have had a year of self reflection and growth and the only thing that has not changed is my waist! ...
...So here is the deal! I have a goal of 100 pounds lost before next December! I want to visit Disney World with my family and not feel paranoid of fitting in rides...or buying souvenigers in the form of clothing and not having to manipulate it like Stretch Armstrong before trying it on! If you have to put one foot on the dressing room door to leverage the pull of a t-shirt...you may need to lose a pound or two!"
Paula went back and printed this as well...I have not lost hardly anything...except a huge turd which may have been the bowel obstruction I was looking for...
And I know 100 pounds is not achiveable...but...I need helop from you guys...getting a realistic goal...cause I now feel like I have no success option and that can not work....There is roughly 3 months left...and I really want to be at 200 or under for the trip...so help me look at what I can do daily for a 50 pound loss in that time...I know that is a huge loss...but if I develop a plan...work the plan...I also know it is not totally impossible...
So if I stay away from the extra WW points allowed...and do the couch to 5 K...what do ya guys think...that would be...4-5 pounds a week...
I am self employeed - so I could commit to 2-3 hours a day for excersize with no problems...
I need this...I want this...it is not my whole goal...but it is a great goal..and i cannot fail...I need this to foccus on to stay away from my foccus now...I need your best advice....and I need you all...
Dawn. I will do anything I can to help you. But babycakes, you need a realistic goal. 50lbs is a LOT. Why not pick something else? This is the long haul, girlfriend. You are in this for LIFE. So let's find a goal that will make you feel like you are succeeding. It's not just lbs, it's also lifestyle. How you think, how you manage your thoughts, how you prioritize yourself. So let's work on that, all together, okay?
Give me a minute or two here and let me delve into what's going on in my head.
I have had a sh$t week and it's only Wed. I feel like a failure in everything. Parenting, weight loss, wife, house, everything.
I have a 5K on Sunday and can I run 5k? Hell, no.
I gained 6lbs on a cruise and blew my 75lb weight loss.
My kid embarrassed me in public.
I got her to school late on her SECOND day.
MY house is a MESS.
It might seem like nothing but it feels like EVERYTHING to me.
But here's the reality. I have a great, smart, sweet kid. I have a husband who can stand to be ignored when the chips are down. I have a beautiful house, clean or dirty. I lost 70lbs and I am down 1lb of the 6 I gained. I lost this week, not gained. That is victory. I have friends (Sarah, LYZ, thank you) who will talk me off the cliff any day of the week. I might not be able to run the 5k, but I can run some of it. AND I raised money for research for this disease my mom has been living with for 12 years. I did good.
My mom is alive. My kid is safe. I am healthy. What more so I want from myself? Perfection. Well, it's not gonna happen in this lifetime.
Is it okay to feel desperate? Heck, yes. Feel it. Cry about it, rage about it, write about it. And then, we take a deep breath and say, okay what's next? What can we do, what small goal can we manage? Can we do it week by week or day by day? Can we stop judging ourselves so harshly and instead be kind to ourselves?
I think you can find a great goal to work towards, but please don't make it so big. Make it small, make it weekly. Make it personal. Say, I want to lose weight by the time I go to Disney. i want to learn how to make good choices when eating out. I want to feed my body well. I want to maintain an exercise schedule. Something doable, without numbers and guilt and shame attached. KWIM?
I use the goal charts WW gives out - go ask your leader for one. Then pick ONE goal. Don't pick a number. Pick an attitude. Because you need to allow yourself to succeed, and set yourself up for success. Here's my current goal, and my steps:
Goal: Make my body lean and strong
Steps: Track my food
Make healthy food choices
Set up and exercise schedule
Follow exercise schedule
Track exercise
Enjoy my life!
I hope this helps.