We are more DL and Hawaii folks, living on the West Coast. We are planning a WDW trip for May, and if it happens (school and COVID depending), we are doing a split. Last trip we started with two nights at Universal's Hard Rock hotel and we looooved it-hotel is gorgeous, walk is as close as the Grand Californian to the parks, and I like the Express Pass much more than FP+-my family haaaaaaates being held to a rigid schedule, which is another reason DL is a better fit for us than WDW in a typical year. So, this year we are mixing it up. We have AKV booked with our points in the middle of our trip; I had planned to rent points for the rest of the week but have now decided to start at Bonnet Creek. It's on Disney property, we can have two bedrooms (we'll have five people), and with the removal of most perks right now it just doesn't matter as much to be at a Disney resort-and the price is incredible compared. Reviews sound like the rooms are at least as nice as most DVC. Then we are ending with three nights back at HRH-we agreed last time that we wanted to end at Universal since it's just a more relaxing time than DIsney.
Re Hawaii, we are very interested in Aulani and I'm sure we'll stay there for a few days one one of our trips. Oahu, in general, would probably be a one and done for me if it wasn't for Aulani. We spent a week there during our honeymoon (and my husband sailed there from Seattle once and lived there for a few months) and it's lovely with some amazing things to see. It's just that the other islands are also lovely, and in my opinion more relaxing and less expensive. We are really happy staying in a condo for two weeks in a small resort with a nice pool, cooking almost all of our meals at home, and laying on the beach, kayaking, snorkeling, surfing every day-Hawaii isn't a vacation for lots of activities and structure for us.
If we had unlimited money, we'd do both-I'd love to spend a week or so at a Disney park every year, but we also love to travel, especially internationally. We had planned a trip to Spain last year
and are hoping we can make that happen soon-our two youngest are in Spanish immersion and we'd really like to get them somewhere Spanish speaking every year or two.