I think that I should perhaps clarify what I said earlier.
My dh is a wonderful cook. I don't cook (I could but I'm nowhere near as good as he is). We are a 2 parent working family and we have activities 3 nights/week that preclude a family dinner.
That said, ds8 has started trying more things as he has gotten older. I know that as time goes on, he will expand his horizons. I gave him (and his younger brother ds4) all sorts of veggies and fruits when they were younger. I eat just about every veggie (except for brussel sprouts and lima beans) and dh eats a wide variety as well. We have salad and veggies on the table at just about every meal.
However, somewhere around age 4, ds8 refused to eat any sort of veggie. Spit it out, gagged on it, started to cry, you name it. Meals became a battle. Try 1 or 2 tastes, I would say. You might like it. Give it a try. You never know. All the proper statements a concerned parent would try. And dh would cook meals that were delicious. Nothing crazy or wacky. Just really good. But ds8 stopped eating them.
Now, I suppose I could have been like my friend, who puts dinner in front of her kids, says this is what we're having, if you don't want it you can get a yogurt from the fridge. I could have insisted he eat 2 bites of everything whether he liked it or not. But I couldn't. Call me a weak mother. I was blessed (although by some standards it might be called cursed) with a mom who was a phenomenal cook. Not what anyone would call fancy but just really good. Growing up, she made 3 veggies for 4 people. She never served my sister and me anything that she knew we wouldn't eat (liver immediately pops to mind). We always knew that the meal would be great.
I just couldn't make dinner a battleground w/ my son. He is not the easiest kid (as I'm sure most mothers of 8 yo boys can attest, thinking he's right 100% of the time), but he is smart, funny, sweet to his little brother and general a great kid. I couldn't make him miserable about food and have it be awful after a full day of work for everyone.
So when we go to WDW and he tries the lobster bisque and thinks it's heaven, or gets the kids steak from Concourse and really enjoys it, I'm happy. After all, it's his vacation too. I know that I would be miserable if we were staying at WDW and every time I sat down to dinner, I had the same choices, the sides were nothing I liked, the food was prepared with toppings I didn't eat, etc. Why would I want that for my child?
I thank all of you for your thoughts and views on this situation. As has been said, no matter what changes are made, there will always be a group who are not happy. And I appreciate being able to discuss this with parents who have children w/ different food needs in such an open, non abusive manner.
So I guess I'm back to square one. Do I keep the dining plan and just order for him and pay OOP if he wants something not available to kids, do I upgrade him to adult, allowing him to order anything he wants, or do I ditch it alltogether and just pay OOP, using my DDE for the TS discount?
I guess I'll wait a bit longer and see if our favorite restaurants end up implementing the new menu. If that happens, it will push me in one direction over others.
ETA: DS8 just walked in the room as I completed this post. I showed him the posting of the new kids menu and went over the new options with him. Explained that I had no idea if they were implementing this at Coral Reef or LeCellier but that we needed to be prepared. His response...I'll be fine w/ it mom. I'll eat the apples and I can have the burger and the sundae and skip the soup.
So it looks like we might be fine after all. And if Coral Reef implements it, then I'll purchase a bowl of soup for him OOP. I'm sure I can select some appies or desserts to share w/ him (and frankly, I certainly don't need to be eating everything by myself anyway!).
So I'll still be looking for info, but it seems that he's made the decision for me. What a kid.