tiggers_pal
Earning My Ears
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- Nov 4, 2006
Hope nobody minds me 'popping in', I am so very luck I have 2 children now aged 14 and 17 ( just where does the time go). But I lost my first child, I was 5 months pregnant, and I called him 'Andrew'. It was the 20th June 1988, our first wedding anniversary. My 2nd son was born on the 20th July 1989, and I look at it that Kristoper wouldnt have been here if Andrew wouldnt have gone, so mixed blessing.
I found it difficult to believe that I had lost a child. I had 3 sisters and 1 brother who died when they where young, 2 late miscarriages ( who would have survived in this day) my sister julie who died at 16 months of cot death, and my sister Maria who died after falling down the stairs. When I lost Andrew I went into complete denial, I thought my mum had lost enough babies and that no way would I lose one, but I did, it took a while to get over, or do you ever really get over it. But now he is with my siblings and they are being great aunts and uncles to him, thats how I feel.
All I would say is that it was totally 'forgotton' that I had lost 3 sisters and a brother, 'hidden under the carpet', its different now with pherapy and all that. But never forget that I know when you lose a child your pain is unbearable at times, but if there is a sibling left, let them talk, let them ask questions, and remember they have lost there brother/sister. Its only now at the age of 39 that I am feeling at peace with now being a 'only child'
Angie
I found it difficult to believe that I had lost a child. I had 3 sisters and 1 brother who died when they where young, 2 late miscarriages ( who would have survived in this day) my sister julie who died at 16 months of cot death, and my sister Maria who died after falling down the stairs. When I lost Andrew I went into complete denial, I thought my mum had lost enough babies and that no way would I lose one, but I did, it took a while to get over, or do you ever really get over it. But now he is with my siblings and they are being great aunts and uncles to him, thats how I feel.
All I would say is that it was totally 'forgotton' that I had lost 3 sisters and a brother, 'hidden under the carpet', its different now with pherapy and all that. But never forget that I know when you lose a child your pain is unbearable at times, but if there is a sibling left, let them talk, let them ask questions, and remember they have lost there brother/sister. Its only now at the age of 39 that I am feeling at peace with now being a 'only child'
Angie