Would you feel weird living in your grandparents home after they passed?

[erin1715]

My family may have the opportunity to move into the home where my mom was raised and her mom (my grandmother) was also raised. So the home has been in the family a long time. It needs a lot of cosmetic updating.

I have wonderful memories there with my grandmother especially. She was my favorite grandparent. She passed In February and none of her children want the house but they would like to keep it in the family.

Anyway, I feel a little weird thinking about living there and I don’t know why. Maybe because it just has an “old” feeling. I can’t put my finger on it. How would you all feel moving into a grandparent or even parents home after they were gone?

 

[low-key]

you have to claim the house, you must go to each room naked , throwing salt

 

[erin1715]

you have to claim the house, you must go to each room naked , throwing salt

Lol is that the ritual? Hmmm....whatever it takes I guess

 

[DisneyDebbie]

For me personally, it depends. If I enjoyed my time there and it meant a lot to me, then sure I could live there and probably update it as needed.

The only issue I have is when family members die in the home. I realize it’s a privilege to care for a loved one at home and you’re helping them carry out their final wishes. But it’s too hard for me to then occupy the house.

 

[tarheelmjfan]

I'm a nostalgic person & would jump at the opportunity, if I didn't already have a forever home. You could update it to make it your home, but still have the memories of your grandparents there.

 

[L&Lfan]

If I liked the house and wanted to live there, I would have absolutely no problem. Otherwise sell the house, take the money and run!

 

[gwynne]

No I wouldn't feel weird.
I'd be thankful for the opportunity and update it as needed.

 

[erin1715]

For me personally, it depends. If I enjoyed my time there and it meant a lot to me, then sure I could live there and probably update it as needed.

The only issue I have is when family members die in the home. I realize it’s a privilege to care for a loved one at home and you’re helping them carry out their final wishes. But it’s too hard for me to then occupy the house.

Yeah thankfully neither of my grandparents died in the home. I agree that would be strange for me too. Somehow I just think I’d be imagining them sitting where they always sat. Or just feel like I was living in their home instead of my own. But I guess that’s why one would need to make updates. I don’t know. I have to mull it over.

 

[Tink9721]

Somehow I just think I’d be imagining them sitting where they always sat. Or just feel like I was living in their home instead of my own. But I guess that’s why one would need to make updates. I don’t know. I have to mull it over.

One of my cousins moved into our grandmother's house after she died, and he did a lot of work on it before he moved in. It definitely needed updating, but it was also a way to make it his own. When he was done it still had the same layout but it didn't look like her house anymore, so it wasn't as weird.

 

[hereyago]

I would love to have my grandparents house.
My grandfather passed when I was 8 and we were close. He actually was clinically dead at the house but was revived just to pass in hospital.
I always "felt" him there, not spooky just love.

My mom passed away at our house and I didn't go in her room for sometime because I couldn't do it.
My dd got pregnant and I had to clear out the room and make it the nursery. We now live in an apartment and I have gone by the old house once(I live about 5 minutes away).
I wasn't spooked at the house , I knew my parents were at peace.

 

[erin1715]

One of my cousins moved into our grandmother's house after she died, and he did a lot of work on it before he moved in. It definitely needed updating, but it was also a way to make it his own. When he was done it still had the same layout but it didn't look like her house anymore, so it wasn't as weird.

I really think that’s they key and maybe that would help me feel better about it.

 

[Southernmiss]

Our grandmother's house was sold, remodeled and flipped last year.

My family and I did not like the changes as it didn't feel like their home anymore.

It was built in 1970 and did need updating. But I couldn't have lived there because it would feel weird to live in the footprint of the home, but not have it look like their home.

 

[hereyago]

Why not have a special section with pics of her etc?

 

[Pea-n-Me]

I can see how it might be bittersweet. But if I liked the house and neighborhood, and the price was right, I'd buy it. If spirits were there I think they'd be loving.

There was a thread last week about people living in homes where people have died (which are many; or the surrounding area, etc.). I'd rather it be my grandparents than someone I didn't know!

 

[kimblebee]

My grandpa had a heart attack and died in his house. There’s no way I’d be able to live there.

Us four kids have pretty much decided that none of us will live in our childhood home after my parents are gone.

 

[shelemm]

It would be a way of honoring your grandparents and keeping it in the family.

 

[AuntieMe3]

We bought my grandparents house from them and they lived here with us until they passed away years later(both in the house, years apart, both on hospice). When they were alive it was still "their house" with their things... after my grandma passed, my grandpa offered us the master, moved into a smaller room, and started slowly helping us replace "their stuff" for "our stuff". He told us it was our home, and we needed to make it our own... and we did slowly. He passed a year and a half after my grandma and that's when we really tried to make it or own. We painted and did some minor remodeling to what we wanted and it really went from their house to ours but still with their spirit and memories included. I love our house so much because it was theirs before it became ours.

 

[ZTator]

 

[disykat]

I think it would be nice, but I would make SURE that the family was okay with me making whatever changes I planned as new owner. My fear would be that family might think they have say.

 

[Welsh_Dragon]

I live in a house that has been in the family since 1868. I grew up here, my Father was born here, my Mother died here. When my parents died I updated the house, made some changes and moved in. I like the fact that the house holds so many memories and so much history. There are many items in the house that have been here since 1868, portraits, ornaments, nicnacs and, for example, at Christmas time we decorate with ornaments that my parents, Grandparents and Great Grandparents held and used. When I work in the gardens, I still use some of my Father’s gardening tools and I like that. It makes me smile to think of us digging the same earth.