LeeshyLeesh
Earning My Ears
- Joined
- May 7, 2015
So, I know this may not be Disney related, and I am very new to this board, but I have personally found that Disney lovers of all shapes and colors have been some of the most relateable people. And if this is not allowed on this board, I truly apologize and please remove.
It's kind of a lot of explanation, but here is goes!
So my husband and I are thinking about having a baby for the first time in our lives. We are ready emotionally and financially and all but my biggest concern is my job. My job is nearly impossible to request off of work and you are punished pretty bad if you don't use your sick/vacation days properly. Instead of having sick and vacation days my company combines all of the hours together and call it "unileave." I do qualify for FMLA but we only get 8 weeks of maternity leave. I have had ovarian cancer before and I lost a couple of "pieces" that would allow me to have a child but would probably put me on bed-rest about a month before I am due. The doctors also have given me a timeline to allow me have children and the end of the line is coming up. But that isn't even the part I am too afraid of. At my office, we are only given 2 10 minute breaks to pump and at the moment there are about 5 ladies that are pumping. They have to sign out a time in the broom closet they have set up for girls to pump and a lot of them can't do it in only 10 minutes. So, if they go over, the office takes that time out of their unileave. Another issue I am scared of if that if there is an issue, I can't leave. If our child gets sick or something happens at work, my husband has to leave his job and take care of it. If I leave early more than three times in a 6 month period, it is considered a write up and I will no longer be qualified for promotions if I have write ups within the last 6 months of when the promotion is being considered.
This job is a great job, working for an elected official, and I make good hourly, benefits, and I work a monday-friday position. I work for the DMV. My husband and I can't live off of just his income so me staying home isn't an option. I have asked the opinion of my parents and they always say "you can do whatever you want to do" but it isn't that simple. I am young, only 25, and although I have my entire life ahead of me, our generation should have our priorities straight and a plan for my future. I am also one where I want to have a steady job and one that I can contribute all I have.
Has anyone else been in this position? I feel like my options are to choose my family first and to just to focus on us and to take a big risk of being fired (which I have never been fired from any job, ever) or do we have a child and keep fighting for this job and let my husband take the reins if complications occur. I know this sounds like a silly question, everyone else says "family first" but I do know how hard it is to find a job at my age, making what I do, and not working weekends or holidays.
I am sorry if this is a ridiculous story and I am thinking WAY too much about everything, I just thought I would reach out for some advice from some people who share the same passion I do.
It's kind of a lot of explanation, but here is goes!
So my husband and I are thinking about having a baby for the first time in our lives. We are ready emotionally and financially and all but my biggest concern is my job. My job is nearly impossible to request off of work and you are punished pretty bad if you don't use your sick/vacation days properly. Instead of having sick and vacation days my company combines all of the hours together and call it "unileave." I do qualify for FMLA but we only get 8 weeks of maternity leave. I have had ovarian cancer before and I lost a couple of "pieces" that would allow me to have a child but would probably put me on bed-rest about a month before I am due. The doctors also have given me a timeline to allow me have children and the end of the line is coming up. But that isn't even the part I am too afraid of. At my office, we are only given 2 10 minute breaks to pump and at the moment there are about 5 ladies that are pumping. They have to sign out a time in the broom closet they have set up for girls to pump and a lot of them can't do it in only 10 minutes. So, if they go over, the office takes that time out of their unileave. Another issue I am scared of if that if there is an issue, I can't leave. If our child gets sick or something happens at work, my husband has to leave his job and take care of it. If I leave early more than three times in a 6 month period, it is considered a write up and I will no longer be qualified for promotions if I have write ups within the last 6 months of when the promotion is being considered.
This job is a great job, working for an elected official, and I make good hourly, benefits, and I work a monday-friday position. I work for the DMV. My husband and I can't live off of just his income so me staying home isn't an option. I have asked the opinion of my parents and they always say "you can do whatever you want to do" but it isn't that simple. I am young, only 25, and although I have my entire life ahead of me, our generation should have our priorities straight and a plan for my future. I am also one where I want to have a steady job and one that I can contribute all I have.
Has anyone else been in this position? I feel like my options are to choose my family first and to just to focus on us and to take a big risk of being fired (which I have never been fired from any job, ever) or do we have a child and keep fighting for this job and let my husband take the reins if complications occur. I know this sounds like a silly question, everyone else says "family first" but I do know how hard it is to find a job at my age, making what I do, and not working weekends or holidays.
I am sorry if this is a ridiculous story and I am thinking WAY too much about everything, I just thought I would reach out for some advice from some people who share the same passion I do.