Great plans for both your days and I love your photos!
A few comments:
I had to giggle when I read that you used your iPhone app to check out the wait times during spring break. I'm such a dork that I actually took screen shots. Great minds think alike.
I think breakfast with Donald and KS is a great way to start your DH's first day in the parks. Plus, I personally hate waiting with the mass of people for rope drop and I'm glad your DH won't have to experience that on the first morning.
EE's standby line should not be too bad but if it is, there is a single rider line that we took full advantage of last June. We never waited more than 5 minutes.
It's a shame your DH doesn't like shows. FTLK is one of the best in my opinion.
As for the TSM, ToT, RNR dilemma, we were in the same situation last year. I couldn't remember all the details so here is part of my trip report:
I still think option #1 is the best. But you will not be able to get more FPs until about 11. Also, the standby line for RnR will be an hour by the time you ride TSM. Hopefully the standby line for ToT will be shorter though. If you would like, I can check the aforementioned screen shots and get an estimate for you.