DDA Chapter 5

[PNO4TE]

Oh Elin...............

CR CR CR CR

enabler!

 

[PNO4TE]

How about a cabin in Fort Wilderness. Very spacious and very quiet.

I actually considered that! But the bedding situation is not optimal for us: 1 double bed, bunks and a pull down Murphy bed. At least in a WL Deluxe room there are 2 Queen beds and a Queen sleep sofa.

 

[PNO4TE]

How do you keep something from a friend, but at the same time keep your promise to the friends mother?

One of my friends(I have known her for 30 years)sister is not doing well. Hospice has been called in & the mother is staying with her in St Louis. My friend went to see her sister last week & was told that she probably has a few months. Today I receive an email from the mother telling me that she was told today that she probably has only a week if even that. She is coming home tomorrow to take care of a couple of things & then will head back. She does not want me to say anything to my friend, she wants to tell her when she gets home tomorrow.

My friend works part time where I work & will be there in the morning. How am I suppose to face her knowing this & not able to say anything? I feel horrible & I know we will be talking about her sister, she is really tore up abut this. I am friends with her mother, I am sure that is why she emailed me & I know the sister as well. My heart is breaking for them all(the sister is only in her 40's).

I won't say anything, but it will be so hard facing here tomorrow

Good luck today, Janet. It will be hard, I am sure. But I know you... you will not say a word.

 

[PNO4TE]

Deb - it sounds like things are coming together on the remodel. I am impressed at how much you all are doing!

Robyn - LOVE the invitation. Well done!

Bernadette - I can't wait to see the shirt!

 

[PNO4TE]

Good morning, DDA!

 

[Blueeyes101817]

gOOD MORNING DDA!

 

[tink2020]

This seems like a good thing to ditto!

I have to say I am feeling a little bit better today about the situation with my mom. I talked to her to find our which hospital she will be going to, the name of her oncologist, etc. I looked up resources for her using her zip code, and I told her the name of the website one of the girls from the breast cancer thread from the CB suggested.
Her results from her colonoscopy came back normal, which is good. I guess the bad thing is that breast cancer doesn't usually spread to the colon - it goes to bones, brain, liver. She was all in a twist that her bone density screening isn't back, but I told her that doesn't matter, because if she has mets to the bones that test won't show it. She has to have a bone SCAN. I told her again that she should let my aunt come with her to the appt.

The kind of odd thing she was saying today is that she thinks the surgeon who did the biopsy may have thought she was someone else? I don't think that matters, unless they tagged her biopsy with the wrong name. She said after she got dressed (and was in the room by herself) that the screen on the ultrasound showed someone else's name. The Dr. just used that machine to guide the needle, so maybe they never typed in her name? No telling. Anyway, she is going to need WAY more tests going forward so if somebody made a mistake they will catch it soon enough.

I had gotten it into my head that I wanted to do the ABD China trip. Just to fly there and back and pay for the Adventure it would cost over $17,000 so I guess we are NOT going to China.

I'm glad you are feeling a little better with some time. I will continue to keep your mom and your family in my prayers!

And I'm sorry you can't go to China!

i had to do what i didn't want to do. the cat is at the pound. but i do have some good news. i met a puppy raiser from KSDS through another puppy raiser's blog and she gave me an idea of who i might get and i am so excited. i talked to her last night on yahoo messenger for about an hour and a half. it was fun.

How exciting!

Hi guys!

It has been crazy here the last week.

I am trying to get a vacation plan together, but with my wife's blackout dates, and my blackout dates from work, it doesn't look good.

The earliest that we could go would be in the fall. Maybe another MNSSHP is in our future. I just don't know.

So my funk has gotten a little worse. We were hoping to go as early as late May or early June, but that doesn't look like a possibility.

I'm sorry the trip doesn't look as doable as possible. Kyle's blackout season is what's keeping us away even longer as well.... I hope you find something soon to start lifting you out of the funk!

I've had a great day. I got the paperwork from my atty. that the weekend that I was fighting the ex about is a done deal. I will have the kids for the Communion weekend. Ex's atty signed off on it. Money talks I guess.

Today is Bob's bday so he, Bethany and I went out to dinner. He wanted steak so we went to Logan's. I told Bethany to be sure to tell all the workers there that it was her dad's bday. He was a party pooper though and wouldn't get up and let them sing to him. So we came home and she and I sang to him. I made him a cake yesterday. When we were getting ready to put the candles on it I went out to the garage and brought in the fire extinguisher. That got a big laugh. Then she gave her dad the pottery that she made for him. He was touched that I did that for him. Of course her mother didn't ensure that she acknowledged her dad's bday. They just left and now it's my relaxing time.

That does sound like a great day!

How do you keep something from a friend, but at the same time keep your promise to the friends mother?

One of my friends(I have known her for 30 years)sister is not doing well. Hospice has been called in & the mother is staying with her in St Louis. My friend went to see her sister last week & was told that she probably has a few months. Today I receive an email from the mother telling me that she was told today that she probably has only a week if even that. She is coming home tomorrow to take care of a couple of things & then will head back. She does not want me to say anything to my friend, she wants to tell her when she gets home tomorrow.

My friend works part time where I work & will be there in the morning. How am I suppose to face her knowing this & not able to say anything? I feel horrible & I know we will be talking about her sister, she is really tore up abut this. I am friends with her mother, I am sure that is why she emailed me & I know the sister as well. My heart is breaking for them all(the sister is only in her 40's).

I won't say anything, but it will be so hard facing here tomorrow

I am so sorry you are in this difficult position.

So my enter key finally works! It's amazing how hard it is to function without it. We've had a busy night. After all the daycare kiddos left we had dinner and then ran out to take care of some errands. Came home and got the girls to bed. Since it's quiet here I finally worked on Mo's invite.

Tomorrow we have Mo's first soccer game and Emma has a birthday party for a girl she went to preschool with. Not sure what we are doing afterwards but we need to get to the grocery. Sunday is Emma's first soccer game, should be interesting dealing with the coach face to face! Then another birthday party for one of Emma's classmates. So not a relaxing weekend but that's life!

Hooray for a working enter key! Your invitation looks fabulous. I still love the Candy Land theme!

 

[jackskellingtonsgirl]

Elizabeth-it sounds like you are handling it much better today It also sounds like your mom is projecting and focusing on little things because that is what she can focus on...you know..."maybe they are wrong because it wasn't my name", "my bone density test isn't back...oh no!!"...that kind of stuff.

I don't blame her. She did say that she authorized the doctors to talk to me and my sisters about her condition, treatment, etc. but she still needs to appoint someone to make decisions in the event that she isn't able to.
I have seen her do that before, focusing on one little thing. When she was supposed to be moving out of her house she had one room empty the day before the new owners took possession. But DH had a few boxes (like 3) of things that he had been storing in her garage and all she could talk about was those 3 boxes that needed to be picked up blah blah blah. Um, what about the rest of this 4 bedroom, 2 story house? She is quite good at focusing on something irrelevant.

Boy, it's quiet on here tonight. I have been washing my new clothes and cleaning out old clothes from my closet. That way I have room for my new clothes.

Yay for new clothes!! I need to weed through my closet again.

That's a bummer Tom! Hopefully, something will shake loose to make it happen sooner than you think.

I hope a vacation is in your plans soon!!

I've had a great day. I got the paperwork from my atty. that the weekend that I was fighting the ex about is a done deal. I will have the kids for the Communion weekend. Ex's atty signed off on it. Money talks I guess.

Today is Bob's bday so he, Bethany and I went out to dinner. He wanted steak so we went to Logan's. I told Bethany to be sure to tell all the workers there that it was her dad's bday. He was a party pooper though and wouldn't get up and let them sing to him. So we came home and she and I sang to him. I made him a cake yesterday. When we were getting ready to put the candles on it I went out to the garage and brought in the fire extinguisher. That got a big laugh. Then she gave her dad the pottery that she made for him. He was touched that I did that for him. Of course her mother didn't ensure that she acknowledged her dad's bday. They just left and now it's my relaxing time.

Yay for paperwork, and yay for a nice birthday for YourBob!!

Yay - Elizabeth's feeling better - she's pricing Disney trips!

I really hope your mom lets your aunt go the appt. with her - I know I would so want someone, ANYONE with me for an appt. like that. What does your other sister say (the one who lives in the area)? Is she trying to help at all? How's your younger sister faring?

I haven't spoken to my middle sister. Or the little one, for that matter. I might call her once we know exactly what the oncologist says and there is a plan for Mom's treatment. After the mess she made of things with our father I would prefer that she just stay out of the decision making.
My aunt said she is very worried about my youngest sister. My mom bends over backwards for her, buys her things she can't afford, and never imposes any rules on her. They behave like roommates/best friends. My sister is going to have to take on at least a LITTLE bit of responsibility and pick up some slack without being whiny about it. I am going to have a BIG talk with her next weekend. I know she doesn't want me to be her guardian so it is in her best interest for Mom to get better.

is there a website to show Cassidy what is involved in concierge at Disney?? Or what the difference between all of them would be??

As Cassidy said it's fun to plan....I think I will take a hint from Elizabeth's musings and do deluxe dining the first part of that trip(unless of course they change it AGAIN and not for the better).

Do not buy DxDDP for the nights you are concierge level. You can get snacks and drinks in the lounge, and they also have enough food to make a little continental breakfast each morning. Having DxDDP and concierge you are paying twice for things.

Maybe her dh took them

Love the invitation Robyn!

Looks great, Robyn!!

Janet- 's to you. Thanks!

Jen- Some for you as well, 's.

Deb- Just keep swimming, you'll get there! And when it's done it'll be fabulous!!

And a ditto for the end!!

Off to breakfast with the Uncles!

 

[PNO4TE]

Bob and I just got back from breakfast at Bob Evans. We have not eaten there in years! Tons of people eating there were on their way to DC for the Cherry Blossom Festival. It is beautiful outside, until you actually GET outside. It is only 40 degrees here and the wind is blustery so it feels like it is in the 20s. Not the best day to be on the Tidal Basin looking at trees!

 

[Mommy2EmMoLu]

i had a blast!

Can't wait til we can do it again!

Robyn - LOVE the invitation. Well done!

Thanks Elin.

Hooray for a working enter key! Your invitation looks fabulous. I still love the Candy Land theme!

Sometimes it's the little things that make you happy A lot of people are doing it for 1st birthdays. I've gotten a lot of great ideas off the web. I just hope the actual party lives up to my lofty ideas

Looks great, Robyn!!

Off to breakfast with the Uncles!

Thanks Elizabeth. Enjoy breakfast!

Bob and I just got back from breakfast at Bob Evans. We have not eaten there in years! Tons of people eating there were on their way to DC for the Cherry Blossom Festival. It is beautiful outside, until you actually GET outside. It is only 40 degrees here and the wind is blustery so it feels like it is in the 20s. Not the best day to be on the Tidal Basin looking at trees!

Breakfast sounded fun. We are planning on going down on the 12th. We've been wanting to go to the Japanese street festival for years but with Mo's birthday and soccer it hasn't been possible. This year there is no soccer game that day. I am very excited, but I hope that it's not too late to see the trees.

 

[Mommy2EmMoLu]

I have a ton of stuff I could be doing but feel like doing none of it. The laundry is never ending and I really should actually clean my house instead of just vacuuming and surface cleaning. But wasting time is so much more fun!!!

 

[MrsHeg]

Good Morning Friends,

Elizabeth - Glad to hear you are coming to terms with things, I haven't confronted them because my Mom asked that we not fight in a letter that she left to us, but I am extremely upset with my two older brothers over their behavior when Mom was so ill. It practically took an act of congress to get them to the house, I finally left a message on one of their machines and told him if he wanted to see Mom while she still knew who he was he better get there soon. I'll continue to keep you and your Mom in my prayers.

Robyn - Love the invite, the party looks like it is going to be a lot of fun.

Tom - I hope you are able to sueeze in a vacation soon, work does have a way of spoiling our fun.

Tammi - Sounds like a wonderful birthday, I'm sure Bob really appreciated it.

Elin - Breakfast sounds fun, DH is working 10 hour days 6 days a week right now so on his days off I let him sleep in, gotta make that "Money for Disney" unfortunately much of it has gone to Dr bills lately.

Have you noticed how busy the Creative Designs forum has been lately? There are several wonderful designers here that are making some great designs, so many designs, so few Tshirts. Can you believe that DD said she didn't want us to have shirts for the cruise? Well I'm making them anyway,

I have a plan to take it easy today, knock on wood, I'm feeling much better already. I hope that since I now have my sugar levels under control that I won't have such a hard time getting over illnesses.

 

[PNO4TE]

Breakfast sounded fun. We are planning on going down on the 12th. We've been wanting to go to the Japanese street festival for years but with Mo's birthday and soccer it hasn't been possible. This year there is no soccer game that day. I am very excited, but I hope that it's not too late to see the trees.

I hope there are still blossoms! They are at their peak right now. According to the Washington NBC station this morning, it is the first time in many years that that trees and the Festival have cooperated!

 

[PNO4TE]

I have a plan to take it easy today, knock on wood, I'm feeling much better already. I hope that since I now have my sugar levels under control that I won't have such a hard time getting over illnesses.

I am glad that you are feeling better, Debbie. I hope your return to good health continues on such a great pace!!

 

[PNO4TE]

OK, Tammi (and others!)... I have changed the Boston photo in my siggy so hopefully it won't be so confusing for everyone.

 

[Tammi67]

How do you keep something from a friend, but at the same time keep your promise to the friends mother?

One of my friends(I have known her for 30 years)sister is not doing well. Hospice has been called in & the mother is staying with her in St Louis. My friend went to see her sister last week & was told that she probably has a few months. Today I receive an email from the mother telling me that she was told today that she probably has only a week if even that. She is coming home tomorrow to take care of a couple of things & then will head back. She does not want me to say anything to my friend, she wants to tell her when she gets home tomorrow.

My friend works part time where I work & will be there in the morning. How am I suppose to face her knowing this & not able to say anything? I feel horrible & I know we will be talking about her sister, she is really tore up abut this. I am friends with her mother, I am sure that is why she emailed me & I know the sister as well. My heart is breaking for them all(the sister is only in her 40's).

I won't say anything, but it will be so hard facing here tomorrow

I know this is going to be so hard for you. Really all you friend needs now is for you to listen to her. Just being there and listening to her is going to be enough. You won't have to say anything. Let her know you are sorry for what she is going through. Good luck.

 

[Tammi67]

So my enter key finally works! It's amazing how hard it is to function without it. We've had a busy night. After all the daycare kiddos left we had dinner and then ran out to take care of some errands. Came home and got the girls to bed. Since it's quiet here I finally worked on Mo's invite.

Tomorrow we have Mo's first soccer game and Emma has a birthday party for a girl she went to preschool with. Not sure what we are doing afterwards but we need to get to the grocery. Sunday is Emma's first soccer game, should be interesting dealing with the coach face to face! Then another birthday party for one of Emma's classmates. So not a relaxing weekend but that's life!

That's wonderful, Robyn. Want to design me a gymnastics one for a 6 yr. old?

 

[PNO4TE]

Good morning, Tammi! What have you got planned today? Any free time?

 

[Tammi67]

Good morning, Tammi! What have you got planned today? Any free time?

Right now I'm doing some laundry and when I get moving I want to go to Kohl's and Giant. Technically my whole day is free. Bob wants to go to that Jazz Concer at UMW tonight but he needs to find a sitter.

 

[PNO4TE]

Right now I'm doing some laundry and when I get moving I want to go to Kohl's and Giant. Technically my whole day is free. Bob wants to go to that Jazz Concer at UMW tonight but he needs to find a sitter.

Does a wine tasting at Kybecca interest you this afternoon?