I really need support- please pray for my daughter

[SallySkelington]

Hugs and prayers to you and your beautiful Julia (and the rest of the family too!)

 

[maxaroni]

Still sending prayers for you, your daughter and all of your family. I understand the hesitation about telling your family as I have been situations where I know I will break if I needed to comfort my my parents as well as deal with the situation we were facing. When we have tried to share in years past, it has blown up in our face. Not always but it is what it is. Only you know when you are ready to share with them Julia's journey of getting healthy. I do understand the flip side in getting the word out for the love and support.

 

[adisneyaunt]

Prayers and strength and encouragement for Julia, you and the family. Bless you all!!

 

[WebmasterMaryJo]

Hugs and prayers. You're a good mama, and by admitting it this was a big step for her. Stay strong, and we're here for you when you need to vent or 'ears' to listen.

 

[Pooh2]

Also, since I've never shared her name under my "other" username, I figured I'd share it here. Her name is Julia. I like to know a person's name when I pray for them, so I thought you might want to know her name. She's beautiful, inside and out.

Praying this morning for Julia and all the other families on this thread affected by eating disorders.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

Sending prayers. She will get better, I believe that, since she admitted she has a problem. It won't be an easy road for either of you, but you are both strong enough to fight through.

 

[Liberty Belle]

I'm so sorry. It's so hard to see our children in pain.

My very good friend's daughter is going through the same thing. She's been through inpatient treatment twice. It's helped more than anything. She still struggles, but is doing much better. Anticipate setbacks and don't let them devastate you. It's pretty normal for this illness, from what I've seen.

I'll keep Julia and you in my prayers.

 

[kimmar067]

....OP, please keep us posted and remember, we are here for you.

 

[moeg]

Thanks again everyone, for your very kind words and prayers. The appointment went really well. The doctor and the resident working with her were wonderful. We're going to be much more careful about meal planning, and Julia has to stay with us (me, her dad or her sister) for 45 minutes to an hour after meals. I'm grateful we're doing this now in the summer, but when school starts it's going to be a much greater challenge. I know things could be worse, and could possibly get much worse. We're going to have to rely on our faith, and all the strength we have to get through this.
I'll come back to this thread periodically to give updates. Thanks again, from the bottom of my heart.

 

[sonnyjane]

Thanks again everyone, for your very kind words and prayers. The appointment went really well. The doctor and the resident working with her were wonderful. We're going to be much more careful about meal planning, and Julia has to stay with us (me, her dad or her sister) for 45 minutes to an hour after meals. I'm grateful we're doing this now in the summer, but when school starts it's going to be a much greater challenge. I know things could be worse, and could possibly get much worse. We're going to have to rely on our faith, and all the strength we have to get through this.
I'll come back to this thread periodically to give updates. Thanks again, from the bottom of my heart.

Glad you like her treatment team!

Regarding the staying home 45 minutes to an hour after meals part, I wanted to say something not to discourage you, but simply to let you know of other things to look for. The first is that you definitely don't digest everything in 45 minutes to an hour. Bulimia actually slows digestion over time. You can still purge several HOURS after a meal. Also keep an eye on her room and in her car (if she has one). It sounds gross, but to avoid getting caught, many bulimics will keep their purges in containers in their closets, under beds, in their cars (if they went to a drive-thru) so that they don't have to use the bathroom. Parents/friends/family expect you to go to the bathroom to get sick - they don't necessarily expect you to do it in your bedroom. Like I said, I don't mean to discourage you or scare you, just want to plant a seed about some things you might not be aware of.

 

[sasywtch]

 

[fly girl]

Continued thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

Regarding telling your moms, if it doesn't feel right, just wait. Like you said you're going through too much right now and comforting them isn't in your plans. Right now do what is best for you and your daughter.

 

[sk!mom]

I'm in the waiting room of the eating disorder specialist right now. Heartbreaking. There's another family next to me who just found out that their daughter has to be taken to a hospital immediately. They're in tears and I can't help but cry with them. My God this is an awful illness.

Thanks again for all of the recommendations and support. I made an appointment to speak with a counselor at my church. She's someone I really trust and respect.

Regarding telling family, my husband and I are so hesitant, for a lot of the reasons mnrose mentioned. I'm afraid our family (mainly our moms) will say something unhelpful, or treat her differently. I also don't want to end up in the position of comforting THEM, which I'm pretty sure would happen with my mom. They love her and would have nothing but the best intentions, but it would be another piece I'd have to manage, you know?

I'll update later when her appointment is over.

Since I was one that encouraged you to share this burden with those close to you, I wanted to say that I totally get this (it seems that we share a similar mom.) It's definitely a good decision to limit it to those that you know will help and not add stress. Seeking out a counselor for yourself is great.

Continued positive thoughts.

 

[lanejudy]