Wendy31
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- Mar 5, 2005
As a conservative Christian I'm morally and ethically opposed to most things in this day and age. I just try to ignore it and go about my business. It's not my place to judge other people... hate the sin, love the sinner is how I like to look at things. I tend to judge people on how they treat me or how they treat my kids. I could care less about anything else.
I think your statement, though, for me is where I would have to draw the line, so to speak, on being your best friend. I would certainly have zero issues being an acquaintance with you, having you over for dinner, socializing, etc. at arm's length. But my BEST friend and I, at least for me, need to have some common world views. We share everything and if I knew that she believed that one of my children was a sinner because he/she is gay, that would actually kind of devastate me personally. I would never disown my best friend for those views but I think the relationship would change because those views are personally hurtful to the some people.
I would consider myself a conservative Christian as well, but I do see how the infamous "hate the sin/love the sinner" platitude can be offensive & even, like you said, devastating & hurtful. DH & I both came out of churches & private schools w/ that "view," for lack of a better word, &, just within the last few years, it's something with which I've honestly struggled & wrestled & about which I've had conversations w/ DH & others. I can't change my core beliefs, but I can change my attitude & how I relate to & see other people, if that makes sense.
So I get it. And I hope I haven't offended anyone, but I think genuine honesty is needed for a respectful dialogue so we can better understand each other.