I absolutely agree with your 2nd statement there. Which is why I tried to clarify that I was speaking only of words, not actions or trying to get others to believe the same thing. But I stand by the words only hurt if you let them. Same as what someone else is wearing can only bother you if you let it. You can only control you and your reactions to others. If you can choose to be offended or not by what someone is wearing, can you not also choose if something someone calls you offends you? like "In order to hurt my feelings, I must first value your opinion". I saw that somewhere not to long ago and it kind of stuck with me.
I don't disagree with you, just pointing out that its odd that society can say you shouldn't be offended by what anyone wears, but we need to be careful about what we say, lest we offend someone. We should not judge people based on what they wear, but it's ok to judge someone because they cuss? Because how many times have we seen posts here or on fb complaining about people cursing and how it shows a lack of intellegence? Or a person's hair or tattoos is not a reflection of a persons ability to do a job, but judge those who dress in long skirts and long hair as being in a cult?