I am pretty sure that most of our accounts are invested in index funds but I haven't checked in on them in years. Thanks for the suggestion to check on Morningstar (although I think I remember something in the news a few years ago about Morningstar possibly fudging its ratings -- although I could be completely wrong about that). We don't need the funds any time soon. In fact, it's kind of odd that 20 years ago I was sure we should invest in tax-deferred plans because our tax bracket would be lower when we retired, but now I'm pretty sure (assuming we both remain healthy) we will have to start taking mandatory withdrawals before we actually retire, so that's another thing I don't really know what to do about.
I'm so sorry that you regret your career choice! If I recall correctly, you are just finishing your degree, so I'm crossing my fingers for you that it turns out better than you are expecting. I've had some positions that were kind of awful--nothing that I absolutely hated, but bad enough to motivate me to look for a different environment. About 15 years ago, I made major move from a big corporation (my first post-graduate degree job) to a government job and took a big pay cut, but the work was more fulfilling and the co-workers more tolerable. I've switched jobs a few times since then, but those have been more "right place at the right time" moves. It definitely took awhile to find my current, not-planning-to-retire-from job. (Which is why I have those IRAs from 20 years ago that I need to figure out what to do with.)
And that's a great statistic about the Roth. I can't even take full credit for getting them started for the kids -- when my oldest son was in high school, his best friend's parents were both economists, and this kid would talk to my son about how much money his Roth was making. My son decided he also wanted a Roth -- which at that point I'm not sure I had even heard of. So not all kinds of peer pressure are bad!